You are not just lucky.

When I was in Bali I devoured the Year of Yes by Shonda Rhimes. I also legit started laughing out loud when I got to her chapter titled, “Yes, Thank You.”


Learning how to say “thank you” instead of downplaying achievements.

Given the theme of this month in Soul Confidence around Shame-Free Success the following passage felt especially relevant. This made me cackle, process, and appreciate myself. I hope it does the same for you.

 Someone says, “I love your show.”
 You know what I say back?
 I say, “Oh my God, I’m just so lucky. Really fortunate. It’s not me, it’s everyone who works with me.”
 Okay. Look.
 Everyone who works with me? They are AMAZING. I truly am surrounded by people — actors, line producers, directors, set decorators, costume designers, assistant directors, grips, craft service people, Teamsters, writers, so many people — who are incredibly talented and without whom Shondaland would literally not exist. There are a bunch of cool people at ABC who are pretty essential too. My agent, Chris. My lawyer, Michael. A lot of people make Shondaland the creative, happy and successful place that it is.
 So it IS everyone who works with me.
 But why am I running around saying it’s NOT me?
 Because it is.
 It’s me.
 It’s me and it’s them.
 It’s US.
 And what the hell is up with the “I’m just so lucky” line?
 I’m not merely lucky.
 No one who succeeds is merely lucky.
 Not in the “she tripped and fell right onto a television ratings chart” way.
 Lucky implies I didn’t do anything. Lucky implies something was given to me. Lucky implies that I was handed something I did not earn, that I did not work hard for.
 Gentle reader, may you *never* be lucky.
 I am not lucky.
 You know what I am?
 I am smart, I am talented, I take advantage of opportunities that come my way and I work really, really hard.
 Don’t call me lucky.
 Call me a badass.

Remember: You are not lucky. You are a badass.

Everybody gets credit, including you.