It’s taken a long time for me to be comfortable being ME.
I’ve been told I’m too opinionated.
I curse too much.
I’m not smart enough.
I dress too sexy.
I’m not professional.
…you get the point.
For a large part of my life, I believed people when they would say these things about me.
I’d silence myself, and clean up my language.
I’d fold on dreams I had, and be less open with people.
I’d stop wearing clothes that made me feel good and did my best to make sure I fit in with my colleagues.I became a dimmed-down, people-pleasing shell of myself.
I became a dimmed-down, people-pleasing shell of myself.
It took asking for a divorce six months after I got married to shake me awake and realize that I had been living my life to please everyone else BUT me.
In that moment I made a vow to myself: No More Hiding.
No more quieting my opinions.
No more pretending like “fuck” isn’t my favorite word.
No more paying attention to people who think I’m dumb.
No more closing myself off and keeping distance in fear that someone would “get the wrong idea.”
No more loose shirts and beige flats.
No more subscribing to what someone else thought I should be.No more making other people comfortable at the expense of who I really am.
No more making other people comfortable at the expense of who I really am.
Today, I’m writing this to you from the house I own with my husband. I’m sore from the pole dancing class I took yesterday, and I made a huge investment to take my shit to the next level in My business.
Yes, *my* business.
I am happy.
And genuinely do not give a fuck if the person I am makes people uncomfortable.
I’m comfortable in MY skin, and that’s all that matters.
When you think about how you’re living your life today, are you showing up being 100% you?
Are you dimming yourself to make other people comfortable?
Are you sacrificing the person you were put on this earth to be?
Because here’s the truth:
There is NO ONE on earth like you.
Don’t swap what sets you apart for mediocrity.