Modern Romance by Aziz Ansari

This past month I read  Modern Romance by Aziz Ansari.

Ansari did an exceptional job exploring the intricacies of our modern dating world.

More specifically, he brought attention to how evolved dating has become.

He talked about a study of 5,000 couples in Philadelphia from 1932, and how they discovered that one-third of the couples lived within a 5-block radius. ONE-THIRD!

He outlined the differences between companionate love and soulmate love, and how ~50 years ago people were getting married based off of if someone was going to be a good companion (be able to provide, good for the family, etc.), whereas today we want all the factors of the companionate marriage on top of also being madly in love with that person.

He quoted a study that found between 2005 and 2012 one-third of the married couples who were surveyed had met through online dating.

And it made me think: What do you believe about online dating?

Do you believe that it’s desperate to turn to dating apps to find someone?

Do you think dating apps are shallow since they’re based off looks? If so, how does that differ from walking into a bar and determining who you want to talk to?

Do you believe that online dating is a vehicle in which to meet people?

I don’t think there are right or wrong answers to these questions.

However, especially after reading Modern Romance, it’s clear that there are still beliefs that are holding us back from embracing the evolution of online dating.

If you haven’t read it already, I encourage you to give Modern Romance a go.

On top of dissecting how dating has evolved, Ansari goes in depth about the development of text stress, what happens when we take on the mentality of there being a “best” person in the world for us, sexting, breaking up via text, settling down vs. settling, and the stages of love.

Next month, I’m going to be reading 5 Love Languages, Singles Edition by Gary Chapman. If you’re interested in self-analysis and growth, I encourage you to read it with me.