Like many of you, as this decade comes to a close, I’ve found myself reflecting back upon what the past 10 years have meant for me. Those reflections began with the accomplishments and life milestones from the decade. The big things. The views from the top of the mountains and the depths of the pits.
I had my fair share of achievements and failures from 2010 to 2019 — both in life and career. Some super high-high’s and some super low-low’s. But even as I’ve been reflecting, I feel that the big things, while influential and important, don’t particularly represent how I’ve evolved from the woman I was in 2010 to the woman I am today.
The milestone moments of this past decade are kind of like points in a connect-the-dots puzzle.
They’re important, but without the lines connecting them, it’s impossible to interpret the whole of what they represent.
This past decade I got married, divorced, and then married again. On their own, these milestones don’t acknowledge how broken I felt, how much courage it took to say “yes” to a first date, or how many expired beliefs about relationships I tirelessly worked through until I could welcome in the love I wanted and knew I deserved. They don’t acknowledge the uncharted connection and security I felt that deepened each time I chose to allow myself to be seen instead of run. They don’t acknowledge how much growth I’ve experienced in the way I love, allow myself to be loved, and communicate. And yet, all those moments were there — slowly building a bridge between dots to help reveal the masterpiece of my life.
My friend, as we close out 2019, my hope is that you look at the beautiful, weird, unexpected connect-the-dots masterpiece of your life this past decade and feel proud.
Yes, proud of the big milestones.
But also (and maybe more importantly), proud of the day-to-day choices and commitments that took you from who you were on January 1st, 2010 to the person you are on December 31st, 2019.
I love you, and I wish you the brightest, most expansive decade to come.