If you’ve been on the fence about trying out coaching, but feel skeptical about what it can do for you, I fully empathize. Before I was coached for the first time, I wasn’t sure what to expect. I finally gave it a shot after the discomfort of trying something new became far less relevant than the frustration I felt about my life not shaping up the way I wanted it to. The good news?
Once I tried coaching, I knew my whole life trajectory was finally going to change.
It was hard work, and sometimes I felt worse before I felt better, but at the end of the day I was, and still am, more empowered than I have ever been in my whole life.
I no longer wait for my life to happen to me — I create what I want and make it happen.
If any of the following signs resonate with you, it’s time for you to try getting coached.
1. You’re tired of feeling Anxious/Overwhelmed/Confused.
If you’re feeling any of the emotions above on a weekly, daily, or even hourly basis and you can’t figure out why, it’s time to get a coach.
I like to call these emotions “indulgent emotions,” because many times they are habitual and even distractions from other emotions that need to be addressed.
Sometimes, we indulge in these emotions because it’s easier than confronting the other emotions we are feeling. While this might keep us from feeling short-term pain, in the long-run not addressing these emotions can be detrimental to our forward progress.
When we indulge in emotions without getting to the root cause, it costs us the life we wish to create.
Contrary to what you might think, you have a choice in feeling anxious/overwhelmed/confused — working with a coach will prove this to you.
2. You know you’re destined for a more fulfilling life but can’t figure out how to get there.
I hear this all the time with my clients — they are “fine” or there’s “nothing really wrong” however they still don’t feel happy and can’t figure out how to make changes in their lives.
Instead of living a fulfilled life, they get stuck sitting on the sidelines wondering how to take the “right step” forward or waiting for a sign to show them the way.
Working with a coach will help you identify the root causes of why you feel “fine,” which is the most integral step of creating the life you want.
Once you’ve identified those root causes, you can get to the juicy part of reprogramming your mind and creating the life you’ve been craving.
3. You’ve “tried it all” and are convinced there’s just something wrong with you.
Is your self-help book collection bigger than Oprah’s?
Did you try therapy, only to come out still feeling shitty after?
Do you have journals that you’ve started with the full intention of making life changes but somehow lost motivation to continue?
If you answered yes to any of those questions, it’s time to get a coach.
Of course, we’d all like to be able to fix ourselves. However, sometimes having an objective opinion on what’s getting in your way to achieving your life goals can accelerate your growth.
An example I like to give is: if your goal in life is to take the best photos ever, but you’ve got lettuce allllllll in your teeth — a coach’s job is to hold up the mirror and point out where the lettuce is. Ultimately, it’s your choice if you want to keep living your life the way it is (aka keep the lettuce all in your teeth). However, working with a coach will offer you a different perspective and an objective opinion on what’s getting in your way from living the way you want to (aka holding up the mirror to show you where the lettuce is).
Many people assume that coaching and therapy are the same, and while both serve important purposes they are very different.
Therapy is important and powerful work that takes place in the space of understanding your past, and getting from a non-functioning state to a functioning state of mind.
Coaching is important and powerful work that takes people from a functioning space to a thriving space.
My job as your coach is not to judge you.
My job is to love you unconditionally.
My job as your coach is not to commiserate with you.
My job is to hold the space so you can see how the way you’re thinking is affecting your life.
My job as your coach is not to tell you how to live your life.
My job is to present the choices you have in any given situation and illuminate how each choice will either help or keep you from living the way you want.
My purpose as your coach is to help you analyze what’s going on in your life, determine if it’s getting in the way of your goals, and push you to become the version of yourself you have always wanted to be.
If you’ve never been coached before, it is 100% normal to be skeptical about it. However, I encourage you to ask yourself where you’ll be in a year if you don’t try coaching. If it’s the exact same place as you are right now, what have you got to lose?
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